Nope, what she did is illegal, as the father of the children, she does not have the right to take them away from you without due process of law.

Speak to a lawyer about this and make sure that you get one that specializes in helping a man not get the short end of the stick in a divorce. In a divorce case, women get favoritism from the courts most of the time, sometimes in the most ridiculous of cases.

If you can get a phone number or anything, call them and record it, if she refuses to let you speak to your kids, you might be able use that as evidence in court. I'm not all that sure on recording a phone call, check with a lawyer on what evidence you can and can't gather.

IF you have done nothing against your wife then maybe she is doing illegal. As to with the kids, according to our law here in our country children below 7 years are automatically given to the mother.

I imagine the courts here in the US will give the kids to her. I was amazed that she thought she could just up and leave with the kids and I'm supposed to be ok with it. I'll have to chat with an attorney to get the steps I have to take to "legalize" the separation. If she took the kids illegally, what would happen to her?

Divorce is the worst form of getting "got." You will more than likely get visitation, but you will have to fight for everything. And then, if she doesn't comply with court orders, you'll have to pay to take her back to court. It's a mess all the way around!

Why divorce? I have never understood the concept. If we love someone and marry him/her, then how can we start hating him/ her so much that we want to get rid of him/her? Was that commitment just a fake excuse?

I agree with you there. Why waste time and money making big promises at the alter and then back out a few years later? I wish I had some answers. I don't so I am posting my questions here. It truly baffles me.

US law requires you to notify the other party they are being recorded. Which normally ends with them not saying much and hanging up on you if they know its going to end bad. She is not within her rights to just take off with the kids unless you are abusive or neglectful. However most people don't just up and leave for no reason. Find a lawyer that specializes in fighting for paternal rights, as stated and make sure you tell them EVERYTHING. Don't hold back or lie as it will make your case not for you but against you.

Dear Broken Heart, I am a woman but I feel really bad for you. You sound like a good father who was left in the dark about your relationship. The best of my knowledge is that you have to get a lawyer and file for custody before she does. Thats the way it used to work. If you have been a good father the worst will be that you will have visitation and if you both try to get along it will be best for the kids to spend time with both ,that way they won't be stuck in daycare or somewhere.Seems like the men ARE getting the short end of the stick as far as their children go. I had an ex hide my son from me once. It is not a happy time. But if you stay calm, I think things will work out for you.Good luck to you. Keep us updated.

What she did is called parental kid napping, get an attorney YESTERDAY, file for divorce or legal separation yourself requesting FULL custody of your children in the interim....I hate when women (for no reason) do this...so many women think that a father is dispensable, fine if you have one fine if not...this is sooooooooooo not true...and statistics bear this out.......plz contact an attorney..

US law requires you to notify the other party they are being recorded this isn't necessarily true and may be state dependent but I know from experience (and believe this to be all us states) only ONE party of the conversation must know it is being recorded (you)....